Individual Therapy

It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled…

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? “Well… because someone bumped into me, of course!”

NOPE! You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. Whatever is inside the cup… that is what will spill out.

So, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen)… whatever is inside you will come out.

What’s in your cup? When life gets tough, what spills over?

You are actually pretty good at survival mode, too.

Except every once in a while you have to excuse yourself at work, or lock yourself in the bathroom so no one sees you cry… so no one sees your pain.

Lately though, it has gotten to a point where your control over those negative thoughts, your ability to hold it all… it hasn’t been working out so well. The emotion, the struggle, the pain… it’s pouring over a bit more… splattering here and there – affecting relationships, your focus at work, your ability to be present with your children and have a calm conversation with your partner.

You wish things were better… you wish YOU were better. But your flood of thoughts and emotions paralyze you. If we admit something is wrong… if we ask for help… what does that mean? 

Therapy requires courage over comfort…

We are creatures of habit, and our lives become hinged on the scripts we replay over and over. The mere mention of “change” can make us anxious. Fighting tooth and nail to maintain the status quo, our comfort zone becomes our identity.

Doing what you have always done is the path of least resistance, and that’s what many of us follow… even if it makes us miserable.

“Nothing is more desirable than to be released from an affliction, but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch.” – James Baldwin

Exerting energy needed to change the norm may seem unfathomable, but IT IS POSSIBLE! 

Your progress in therapy will be contingent on looking your pain, heartbreak, trauma, anxiety, or depression square in the eye and breaking through your comfort zone. If you do this, you can disrupt old patterns and find a new path – one of confidence, acceptance of the unknown, openness to new opportunities, and the mental energy needed for a better life.

Therapy does not “fix” you, because you’re not broken.

When going to a medical doctor, the best-case scenario is that you leave with a cure – and your illness is eradicated, never to return.

With mental health, I am not going to cure you. Rather, I will support you in learning and implementing inner and outer resources to cope with life’s challenges.

Individual therapy offers a safe and supportive environment where we work together enabling you to:  Recognize what causes your good days and bad days, Implement positive daily routines, Gain awareness of negative feelings and get rid of them, Deal with guilt and shame, Understand the mechanics of human functioning and emotions, Handle criticism, Measure your self-worth independent of others’ approval, Practice mindfulness and self-care, Build confidence and self-acceptance, Live a life that is reflective of your values and passions, and Find joy in the little things.